ARIELLE - We Miss Her Already!
This is my husband's daughter who we have had living with us since 5 days after we met her in January. She just got to turn 3 years old last month on the 9th of October at Chuck E Cheese... Our oldest turned 10 the very next day. Just one of the many cool connections our family has together. Two sets have a birthday back to back. Sunday Arielle has been kept by her mother( she just did not show up to meet us), she will not give her back and this is the second time her mother has done this... her mom realizes after about 5/6 days that she can not handle her and starts putting her in Nursery Crisis or just leaving her with miscellaneous people. Her mom has many problems and has been dianosed with several depressions, bi polar and multiple personalities. She has given all 4 of her kids to their dad or the dad's close relative including her 4 month old. That was the 4th baby for her and she is still only 21 years old and married to the last father but trying to figure out how to get a cheap divorce. She has been living out of her car and just in the last month able to get section 8 housing from the county. Still no place for Arielle when she has a room and too many clothes and toys and everything she needs waiting for her at home with us. I believe a child should be with their mother but when the mom calls me for hlep on how to calm a baby or child down and I have to instruct her to grab them and hold them and tell them "you love them", she is just not fit to be her mommy when I can give her so much unconditional love!
We don't know what to do, we want her back and need to find ways to get court papers because without that we have no say in anything, even if she is not taken care of over there with her mom... no one will do anything, we have tried Children's Protections (which has visited her many times over the years, police (which she has had come to our house), and been down to family court. What else can we do??? I am looking for suggestions or something... I know I don't have a big group out there reading my blog but any help even the couple that might browse through here.
Arielle has everything she needs with us and her personality has grown so much in the last 10 months. She has blossomed and bloomed with us. We can not do anything, even her mom's grandpa is on our side for us to raise lil Arielle. We got her back the first time because he had her and her mom was no where for days and he can not take care of her in his old age, we picked her up from his house and she was just curled up on the coach with coat and shoes on... and jumped and got so excited to see dad. We have picked her up twice from a Nursey Crises Center because her mom left her and didn't come back and they can not keep her past 72 hours at a time.
She has so many opportunities with us to have and that she has experienced... please enjoy the pictures... Also she just started Dance classes and had her first class right before we dropped her off with her mom on Saturday...
Here she is at one of the many trips to the Science Muesuem, Granny bought the Grandpa/Grandma pass so we can go anytime for Free!
Here we are at Valleyfair, a full day of rides and fun!
Movie in the park... this was the coolest thing ever... they set up a hugh blow up screen and we watched Little Giants the night before the boys started Football for the city.
Arielle got picked from the crowd to come up on stage at Valleyfair, they got the cutest lil girl in the audiance!!
The girls dancing to Grandpa's band at the country club... I tell you these kids get around to everything...
The last trip of many beach visits this summer... we brough the rafts at the end of the season while they were cheap... we will be ready for next summer! Plus we bought a pool for the backyard too at the end of the season for cheap.
Just our HAPPY Arielle on a typical day...
Yesterday when I picked the boys up from Library... Malik's first questions was "Is Arielle back home?" it breaks my heart that even the kids will miss her so soon... How can we get her back?
Where can you get help with court fees and whatever else you need to do... seems like no one will help us at the county offices and family justice center, we been down there 3 times. Has anyone ever written companys for donations, do you know what has to be done to get such help, we need it!
Taylor Luv
Andrea
PS... Arielle calls me mom and calls her mom by her first name all the time, even to her mom on the phone. It is hard for Arielle to know my name with 3 kids running around calling me mom though... but she is My Daughter 100%.
I went from knowing nothing about black hair and wanting to get a book from the library on styles (my husband insisted there was no such book) but I can do it all now... I have learned her hair and love doing the braids, just about a month ago I finally got the corn-braids down and they actually look really good. This picture is the first time i ever did it... I am so much better now, I just don't have an updated picture on the computer yet... I will try to get one up this week!
I love love love her!
This post is part of "Laughter Lives! Tuesday" on the Riggs Family Blog. Check our their blog to read everyone else's "Laughter Lives!" posts.
and will make it through this again and will find her way back to us. My mom has gotten her the cutest winter coat and snowpants, Arielle we are not moving ahead without you... I put all the summer clothes away in the girls room and have your winter clothes ready for when you come back, that was hard. I hated seeing all her clothes and not having her here... I never knew I would hurt this much from her being gone, well, actually I did because I feel it everytime we had to let her go to her mom's for a day. Don't tell daddy Tor though because I try to stay strong for him while she is gone!!
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